1. Define what's going on - tell safe people and keep the information flowing

2. Ask for help - remember, we all need to give, so give others a chance to do so. Practice, practice, practice.

3. Be specific in your requests - it's easier for folks to help if they know what you need/want and can accept.

4. Get organized - so all the "casseroles" don't come on Tuesdays.

5. Don't take "no" personally - Really, it's more about the availability or limitations of others than about you!

6. Keep on giving to others - especially if you want to feel better, there's nothing like helping someone else.

Phyllis’ Safety Net Story

In April of last year I had my annual physical. My cholesterol was over 200 and I was at the highest weight I had been in my life.

I went on a trip to the Oregon coast with a good friend of mine. One night we talked about our goals. I said I wanted to get in better shape, especially after talking to my doctor. The one thing was that it was difficult to find the motivation.

She sat across the table from me and asked, 'What can I do to help?'

We made a plan: I started a food journal that I sent to her by email every day (for 60 days). She gave me some tips on eating better, portion control and eating a small meal or snack every three to four hours. I made little changes every week. I began exercising consistently five days a week and 30 days later I had lost 9 pounds. Six months later I was 35 pounds lighter and I felt really good.

For the last year I have been walking around some 25-plus pounds lighter, my cholesterol is down to 154, and I can tell you I feel much better!

Phyllis has shown the strength of a Personal Safety Net by enlisting the help of others, then offering to extend help to them, too.